I buzzed mine off in October. 37. Not a bob, not a fringe. 7 milimeters left. It was on our first night of a 3-month camper trip through Europe, parking lot in an industrial zone in Italy. Full Moon in Aries, rain pouring.
The idea came as you describe it - unexpected, but also relentless, so I just went for it before the courage left me. I wanted to know who I was without my hair. It taught me more than any other out-of-the box experience I ever chose to give myself with this same intention. And it mostly wasn't pretty.
Hair is everything.
P.S.: My 5yo daughter lost it. She told me I was ugly, that I wasn't her mom anymore.
I don't regret it, but if I were to do it again (which I won't 🙈), I'd prepare myself and my daughters for it.
I’m pretty sure our daughters will look back and see us as brave—for trusting our intuition, for cutting our hair when it felt like the only thing that made sense, for making declarations in the language of our soul.
Maybe. Or maybe they'll think we were batshit crazy, but I’ll always know I had to clear up the shit that my prisoner haircut (I was going for Sinead O'Connor, but hey) brought up so that they'll never have to, and that's good enough for me.
Thank you, Amanda, the resonance runs both ways. 💚
Love this so much as a mum of a now woman, all the bells are clanging right here with you and for you. We rely far too much on their approval and you rightly showed them - I am me. Like it or not that is huge for them even if they execute that move in a completely different way - they will one day understand 🌸
I cut off all my hair for the first time in 25 years. I had a traumatizing haircut at 7 years old and I've had long hair ever since. But after going through so many changes in my adult life, I needed my outward appearance to relfect what was going on inside. So I cut if all off. Haven't looked back since.
I think it’s a well known trope between women/femme friend groups that when someone gets bangs they’re in crisis 😂 I think cutting your hair is always a ritual—in some cultures they don’t because it represents something vital within the person. I love that a drastic change like this can feel like a cleanse or a rebirth or even a cry for help. And it’s often the most direct and tangible way to surface the changes within you. Can’t wait to see the bob 😘
I chopped all my hair into a pixie cut (from waist length) when I graduated from college and was finally out from under my mother's control. It was liberating! I have since grown it and cut it numerous times. You can be beautiful with short hair. What matters is that it feels like you.
Hair is everything! I have a haircut planned next week and also been contemplating something more radical haha, like perhaps a fringe? But also slightly scared to do it! Rooting for you ✊🏼
I can totally relate... "Because in this moment, it isn’t just about hair. It’s about voice. About visibility. About crossing into a new season of my life..."
I have been moving through a very dense, dark and difficult season of my life over the last 1.5 years. And although I have been tempted to just chop it all off into a bob, I purposely have refrained.. letting it continue to grow as I move through this heavy time, knowing that a "rebirth" and "new chapter" of my life is just around the corner. Only then, will I cut it.
Cutting my hair will be so rich in symbolism and emotion for me this time. It will mean "final release" of this painful chapter in my life and cutting away of the "old." Stepping fresh into the new, my authentic self, with no heavy baggage so I can travel light. I can't wait for it! 💇🏻♀️🎉
I buzzed mine off in October. 37. Not a bob, not a fringe. 7 milimeters left. It was on our first night of a 3-month camper trip through Europe, parking lot in an industrial zone in Italy. Full Moon in Aries, rain pouring.
The idea came as you describe it - unexpected, but also relentless, so I just went for it before the courage left me. I wanted to know who I was without my hair. It taught me more than any other out-of-the box experience I ever chose to give myself with this same intention. And it mostly wasn't pretty.
Hair is everything.
P.S.: My 5yo daughter lost it. She told me I was ugly, that I wasn't her mom anymore.
I don't regret it, but if I were to do it again (which I won't 🙈), I'd prepare myself and my daughters for it.
Aja! This is potent. I visualized the entire moment as if I was there with you.
So. Much. Resonance. You're incredibly courageous.
I’m pretty sure our daughters will look back and see us as brave—for trusting our intuition, for cutting our hair when it felt like the only thing that made sense, for making declarations in the language of our soul.
Loved reading your comment!
Maybe. Or maybe they'll think we were batshit crazy, but I’ll always know I had to clear up the shit that my prisoner haircut (I was going for Sinead O'Connor, but hey) brought up so that they'll never have to, and that's good enough for me.
Thank you, Amanda, the resonance runs both ways. 💚
Love this so much as a mum of a now woman, all the bells are clanging right here with you and for you. We rely far too much on their approval and you rightly showed them - I am me. Like it or not that is huge for them even if they execute that move in a completely different way - they will one day understand 🌸
Wow - raw and real . We are all victims of the beauty industry 😔
Thank you for your comment, Vicky!
Great WISDOM
Thank you, Andre!
Nice profile image. Are u in Telegram or Whatsapp?
I cut my hair myself! Even bought a special pair of scissors to do it. I wrote it up last year and referenced the exact same Fleabag scene, too:
https://open.substack.com/pub/brunettegardens/p/slowpocalypse-barber?r=1n113r&utm_medium=ios
I usually cut my own hair too. This one was a bit too drastic and I wanted some layers. It's a potent scene and I just LOVE Fleabag in general.
It's a fab series.
I cut off all my hair for the first time in 25 years. I had a traumatizing haircut at 7 years old and I've had long hair ever since. But after going through so many changes in my adult life, I needed my outward appearance to relfect what was going on inside. So I cut if all off. Haven't looked back since.
Andy, thank you so much for sharing! How did cutting it off feel? Liberating? You’ve kept it short ever since? x
Nerve-wracking at first but then do liberating. A visible reminder of change.
I think it’s a well known trope between women/femme friend groups that when someone gets bangs they’re in crisis 😂 I think cutting your hair is always a ritual—in some cultures they don’t because it represents something vital within the person. I love that a drastic change like this can feel like a cleanse or a rebirth or even a cry for help. And it’s often the most direct and tangible way to surface the changes within you. Can’t wait to see the bob 😘
"It's always a ritual" Guess we're both in a rebirth period. Celebrating our resonance! 😘
I chopped all my hair into a pixie cut (from waist length) when I graduated from college and was finally out from under my mother's control. It was liberating! I have since grown it and cut it numerous times. You can be beautiful with short hair. What matters is that it feels like you.
Celebrating that liberation! "What matters is that it feels like you." ♡
Hair is everything! I have a haircut planned next week and also been contemplating something more radical haha, like perhaps a fringe? But also slightly scared to do it! Rooting for you ✊🏼
Ahh couldn't love the resonance more. Please share pics! Rooting for you too, love. Mine is booked for tomorrow.
I'll try haha, and you too-would love to see the new look!
deal ♡
👏👏👏
I'm finally doing it!
A good lesson for your littles about beauty. Mothers are wonderful teachers. Have fun. 😉
I can totally relate... "Because in this moment, it isn’t just about hair. It’s about voice. About visibility. About crossing into a new season of my life..."
I have been moving through a very dense, dark and difficult season of my life over the last 1.5 years. And although I have been tempted to just chop it all off into a bob, I purposely have refrained.. letting it continue to grow as I move through this heavy time, knowing that a "rebirth" and "new chapter" of my life is just around the corner. Only then, will I cut it.
Cutting my hair will be so rich in symbolism and emotion for me this time. It will mean "final release" of this painful chapter in my life and cutting away of the "old." Stepping fresh into the new, my authentic self, with no heavy baggage so I can travel light. I can't wait for it! 💇🏻♀️🎉
I love that you resonate with it being ritualistic! "A beginning..." This hits so hard, Billie.